The Strength of Friendship

Men are not autonomous creatures.

Self governance is indeed a good thing, but defining your own law (as autonomous literally means) or being self-authorizing can get you into trouble. Ultimately, man’s authority is God–and our earthly authority comes from him, like sub-contractors on a job site. In addition, men aren’t self-capable; that is to say, one man can’t do everything by himself.

The greater scope of work God gave to mankind is immense: to take dominion of creation through the redemption of the Gospel, and so to be the tools of God as he implements His kingdom in the earth. But his personal call is perhaps more challenging–to live holy, obedient and godly lives through faith. Son, you can’t do either of those things without help.

Throughout the Bible, you read stories of friends who strengthened each other’s faith. They are a tool of God to sustain both your wider and personal callings.Are you developing strong fellowship? Because faith rarely succeeds without it.

Serving an Employer

The jobless rate, I’m becoming convinced, is due more to the general ineptitude of the American worker rather than the economic inability of employers or even government interference.

Young men, a word of advice: if you’re willing to take initiative, work hard, expand your skillset, submit to your employer and look out for his best interests ahead of your own, you’ll never be out of a job. Employers can’t afford NOT to employ people like you–and businesses regularly close simply because the owners can’t find enough good men.

Some other really valuable commodities in an employee:

  • Peacemaker
  • On time
  • Honorable/Loyal (speaks well of ___)
  • Joyful/up beat/encouraging
  • Focused
  • Courage (takes responsibility, indomitable)
  • Ability to learn/teachability

It’s not surprising that the same characteristics that make a spirit-filled Christian make an excellent employee. After all, the word of God applies to all parts of life, including submission and authority.

Bondservants, obey your earthly masters with fear and trembling, with a sincere heart, as you would Christ, 6 not by the way of eye-service, as people-pleasers, but as bondservants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart, rendering service with a good will as to the Lord and not to man, 8 knowing that whatever good anyone does, this he will receive back from the Lord, whether he is a bondservant or is free. – Ephesians 6:6-7

Even if you’re an entrepreneur or an employer (“master”), you must submit daily in your work to Christ, your customers, advisers, and others. As the centurion soldier said, “I too, am a man under authority.” Humbly is the way to do a real man’s work.

Repetition Breeds Habit

Young man, you aught to pay careful attention to your habits. The things you do and the way you are now will essentially drive the rest of your life. Habits are simple things, but hard to break. And the longer you’ve had them, the harder it is to change!

Sinful habits must be broken, and by the promise of God and the power of the spirit, they will be. Through the promise of sanctification, you’ll be made more and more like Christ, and you are at peace. At the same time, you MUST kill the sin in your life. The love of God demands it, and this holiness is entirely your responsibility. God is not liable for any of your sin.

Habits of holiness get less attention, but are vital replacements for the old lifestyle. Christian, God does promise to draw you near to himself, and will build a relationship through positive habits. But, you need to work today to spend time with God, to put on the armor of God, to walk in the spirit. And you’ll have to someday stand before God and vouch for your stewardship of His time.

Make change faithfully–repeat the good things. Steady as she goes. Focus on today’s troubles. Simple repetition is what breeds habit. And pray without ceasing for God’s grace in your life.

Because he Talked with God

At a recent open house, a grandson of one of my Dad’s oldest friends was celebrating graduation from high school. While we were there, a good friend we hadn’t seen in years commented how I act just like my Dad, and how that was one of the ways he recognized me. Some call inherited habits like that “Family Idosyncricies.”

Of course, I’ve watched Dad’s behavior for years, and consciously or unconsciously mimicked him. In my case, Dad has given me a pretty good basis for operations in life. It’s the same with anyone you spend time with; being a second-born son, I watched my older brother, too.

As Christians, adopted into the family of God in Christ, we need to keep our eyes constantly on our Father so we can pick up his habits. When you Spend lots of time with someone you naturally know and love them more–and you become more like them. Keep at Jesus side so that you can assimilate His glory!

When Moses came down from Mount Sinai, … Moses did not know that the skin of his face shone because he had been talking with God.
Aaron and all the people of Israel saw Moses, and behold, the skin of his face shone, and they were afraid to come near him. – Exodus 34:29-30

Love: a Union between Belief and Action

Love–as Christ expressed love–is two faceted. Part of love comes from the heart (mind) in the form of devotion, desire, longing, concern, empathy , etc. Another part of love is action–self-sacrifice, working for sanctification, nourishing, honoring, etc.

Love is both motive and vehicle for faith and obedience.

For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known. So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

Killing the Old Man

You’re powerless to fight the old, sinful man dwelling in side of you, brothers. It’s only by Christ’s killing of your sinful self that you can have new life in Christ. But often, we aren’t willing to let go of the old nature just yet.

Maybe you still find pleasure in sin–pleasure can become an idol. Or maybe you’re afraid of what the new life might look like without the old. Or maybe, you’re just angry at God.

One of the most important “Want to Want-to’s” is to hate sin, and want to die to your old self to be renewed in the image of Christ. If you’re truly saved, Christ will complete the work that he has begun of sanctifying you. And, it is your responsibility to work hard for sanctification through the power of the Holy Spirit. You were dead in your sins, and Christ made you alive; and by faith you are saved. Christ will sanctify the true Christian regardless of your cooperation, but it is your responsibility to be sanctified through the Spirit. Both/And!

Young men, give up the sinful lusts and passions of your heart that destroy your relationship with God. Forget anything this world has to offer apart from Christ. Be done with sin. Pray without ceasing that God will kill your old man and invigorate new life. It’s in personal holiness that you will find freedom, peace, joy, love, and most importantly, where you’ll most clearly see and love the beauty of Christ.

Wanting to Want To

Brother Andrew tells a story in his book, ‘God’s Smuggler’ about an opportunity he had to print a huge number of Chinese Bibles. The trouble was money–Andrew didn’t believe in begging for money–as God is the King, he would know and supply their needs. But God didn’t seem to be sending funds for this project. But focused on the importance of Bibles for China, he considered a way to get enough money to produce the Bibles–to sell their house. Although Brother Andrew felt that God might be calling him to sell, neither he nor his wife could bring themselves to do it. So their prayer turned from “God, let us be willing to sell our house” into “God, make us willing to want your plan, so that we will be willing to sell our house.”

Often times our primary sin is not that we don’t do what God commands, but that we don’t want to do what God commands. When you want to serve the True God in your own way, and not in His way, that’s idolatry and rebellion. Even if you’re doing what he wants (like printing
Bibles for China) but do it in your own way, that’s sin.

So like Brother Andrew, our prayer often becomes, “God, let me want-to want-to!” Pray for the desires of God to be your desires, and that His heart would be your heart. Only then can you truly love God as you aught.

Christ’s Authority of Love

God is the head of Christ, and Christ is the head of the church.

It’s easy to see authority as restrictive. In fact, aren’t rules simply to prevent you from doing things, and thus, anti-freedom? Quite the contrary.

If you want to attain true freedom, you must give your own way up and follow the way of Christ. Even on earth, Jesus was all-powerful. He was capable of doing anything he wanted–but was perfectly limited by the Father’s will. Every move that Jesus made on earth was scripted by a sovereign God. And yet, He is the freest man that ever lived.

Sin is bondage, slavery. Christ died that we (believers) will be free–because we died with Him, and are raised with Him, and Paul says that we are hidden in Christ with God.

So love and freedom are intermixed–setting aside your own desires to consider the desires of others first, that is to love, brings freedom.

Simply, Christ’s love for us is our freedom.

Happy ascension day!

As Christ Loved the Church

Paul teaches two things in Ephesians 5–how husbands should love their wives, and how Christ loves the church. Young man, it’s vital that you know how to love your future wife. But it’s a critical prerequisite that you know the Love of Christ.

Christ loved us, setting aside His own desires, and putting the our needs before His own (Mat 26:39). He loved us, sanctifying us to make us holy both in the sight of God (1 Cor 6:11) and physically holy in the world (Eph 5:8). He washes us “with the water of the word” so that we might be spotless and clean. The sacrifice that Jesus made to bring us sanctification was complete–he undertook the whole wrath of God for our sake.

Our calling then, is to love as Christ did, in every circumstance where we are called to love:

You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. – Matthew 22:37-39

Being God’s Man

The world cries out against weak men, because it stands or falls by their strength. Truly, the battle for the world is fought in the hearts of Christian men.

The world’s answer to the weak effeminate is “cowboy up, be your own man.” Agreed, an important aspect of manhood is the ability to stand on your own two feet; when the world is against you, to stand as Athanasius did, one man against the world.

But men are never to be autonomous–operating solely by their own law, under no one else’s authority. The Christian man is to be God’s man–quite literally His servant or slave. Like a soldier under his commanding officer. Keeping his body and mind under his own authority, but subjecting everything to Christ. How can you expect to bring your sphere of influence under the feet of Christ if you yourself are not so subjected?

My answer, and Paul’s answer in Romans 8 & 9 is this: humble yourself, and be God’s man. And when you humble yourself, God will exalt you; when you rest in His provision, he will give you the desires of your heart. Will not the God who gave us reconciliation through the gift of His Son, and who owns the cattle on every hill, be sure to abundantly bless us as we trust in Him?

And that’s a true man: self controlled, under the subjection of Christ, and willing to do the work of God even if it means opposing the entire world for the name of Jesus.